Apologue #42: One Chance Rule

Before you get hyped up thinking this is another one of those, “Don’t regret it so go get it” speeches or “What if he was the One” scenarios, drop the ball because this is just plain, old me and my own personal dating persona. The “One Chance Rule” is a simple dating rule that I gave myself years ago regarding my choices in men.

Basically it means, no matter who you are and what you do, if you ask me out (and all respectively, like any good gentleman would ask me out) — I give you a chance. But see, here’s the thing, you better impress me real good because all you get is that ONE chance — ONE shot to make it big or go home (and alone).

Now, I don’t go parading this tidbit about myself that I’ll accept any date, but the relief you give the man that bravely came up to you, to ask you out for a simple coffee date, or a lunch/dinner date, and to see that sigh of pure bliss from his face once you say yes, is always a golden treat for him and for you. Look how happy he/she looks! Trust me, you can’t forget it so easily. Besides, what harm can come from an hour or two of getting to know each other better? Not to forget some free munchies if he’s generous too?

Now, to weed out stranger danger, this rule does only apply if you’re in my vicinity of areas that I’m wandering in, say — workplace, school, etc. I do not, and I repeat, DO NOT apply this rule if I have NEVER seen the man in my life. Literally, if you came up to me on the side of the road and randomly asked me out, heck no I’m not saying yes. BUT I will say yes if I don’t know you but we work at the same firm, or had a class together, something like that. You have to be around the comfort of my social pool.

Even with that, I have met my fair share of creepers. But no worries, just turned out to be harmless creepers once you talk it out with your date. It’s really not that bad. Quite a few stories to tell afterwards to your girlfriends too, it’s awesome.

But the point being to my dating rule, I’m not trying to be nice. I’m far from it. But the idea that you never know what could happen between you and the person in front of you, is quite thrilling in the romantic sense. Call me a romantic, but I feel that the best kind of love is always going to be with the person most unexpected, at the most unexpected of times. And one shot, is all I need to figure that out, it really isn’t that hard.

I also have a part of me that truly believes that I could fall in love with anyone. We dream up fantasies of the perfect guy with the perfect hair and abs and smile — but reality isn’t so nice and dreamy that we can date these dreamboats from any corner of any place. That’s why for me, instead of me chasing butterflies and getting my hopes up, I’ll never know what kind of butterflies will come to me if I keep running around and getting winded.

And so you never know. Sometimes, you can have the privilege to see parts of people that no one else ever gets a chance to see and those, could be the exact pinpoints of how you could fall in love with anyone, should you choose to let that chance happen. It’s quite wonderful and remarkable who you can meet and get to know, only by saying a simple, “yes.”

Give it a shot. What do you have to lose?

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Apologue #41: How to Get a Boyfriend

As enticing the title may seem, it DID get my attention whilst roaming around the internet. Should I try it out too? I should find this ingenious cafe in Korea and commend whoever wrote this on their board, and buy them a cup of coffee. 🙂

<How to Get a Boyfriend>

1. Order a cup of our coffee (cafe) to-go.

2. Give the coffee to the man you’re interested in and say,
If the coffee tastes good, we date; if not, bug off.”

3. The coffee at our cafe is the best.
We guarantee you two will end up dating.

4. If, by chance, you get rejected, then come back.
We will give you a cup of fresh hot coffee that you can pour onto his face.

Love Quote #8: “I Love You”



In Japan, there happens to be three ways to say the phrase, “I love you.”

You say, “Daisuki (大好き)” for the friends and person you like.

You say, “Aishiteru (愛してる)” for a more serious relationship.

And, “Koishiteru ( 恋してる)” to the person you want to spend the rest of your life with.

And they follow this rule.

They preserve the meaning of “I love you” and never lose its essence, unlike the rest of us.

Apologue #30: Etiquette for Men at Night

I’ve been wanting to post this poster for some time now and actually waiting for the perfect time and tonight seems a perfect night as any other. After just having read the awesome vic briggs’ “Rape” blog post, I am inspired to share this poster that has been making its way around the internet since the past year. It’s a Korean poster (the author is unknown) protesting sexual harassment and violence to women. I found this poster very much to my liking and spreading it in hopes that all men can have the sense and decency in understanding why this is important. The translations are as follows:

Protesting Sexual Harassment and Violence to Women
— Etiquette for Men at Night***

1. Remember that your presence can be threatening to women walking alone at night.

2. If a woman is walking in front of you alone at night, slow down.
You walking quickly or speeding up can be and in most cases, is threatening.

3. If you have been drinking and are drunk, go straight home.

4. Do not pick a fight or aggravate women walking at night.

5. Do not take off your clothes or publicly urinate.

6. Be careful to make sure you do not touch or hit someone, even on accident (whether it be day or night).

7. If, late at night, you come to a situation in which you and a woman have to ride an elevator together, let her go up first and wait for the next elevator.

8. If there’s a woman in a public restroom (there are Korean public restrooms with no gender or sex markings that are open to all people — unisex), wait for her to finish and come out first before using the restroom.

9. Report broken streetlights to the police.

10. Tell other men about these rules and that they have a responsibility to not threaten women that are alone at night.