Before you get hyped up thinking this is another one of those, “Don’t regret it so go get it” speeches or “What if he was the One” scenarios, drop the ball because this is just plain, old me and my own personal dating persona. The “One Chance Rule” is a simple dating rule that I gave myself years ago regarding my choices in men.
Basically it means, no matter who you are and what you do, if you ask me out (and all respectively, like any good gentleman would ask me out) — I give you a chance. But see, here’s the thing, you better impress me real good because all you get is that ONE chance — ONE shot to make it big or go home (and alone).
Now, I don’t go parading this tidbit about myself that I’ll accept any date, but the relief you give the man that bravely came up to you, to ask you out for a simple coffee date, or a lunch/dinner date, and to see that sigh of pure bliss from his face once you say yes, is always a golden treat for him and for you. Look how happy he/she looks! Trust me, you can’t forget it so easily. Besides, what harm can come from an hour or two of getting to know each other better? Not to forget some free munchies if he’s generous too?
Now, to weed out stranger danger, this rule does only apply if you’re in my vicinity of areas that I’m wandering in, say — workplace, school, etc. I do not, and I repeat, DO NOT apply this rule if I have NEVER seen the man in my life. Literally, if you came up to me on the side of the road and randomly asked me out, heck no I’m not saying yes. BUT I will say yes if I don’t know you but we work at the same firm, or had a class together, something like that. You have to be around the comfort of my social pool.
Even with that, I have met my fair share of creepers. But no worries, just turned out to be harmless creepers once you talk it out with your date. It’s really not that bad. Quite a few stories to tell afterwards to your girlfriends too, it’s awesome.
But the point being to my dating rule, I’m not trying to be nice. I’m far from it. But the idea that you never know what could happen between you and the person in front of you, is quite thrilling in the romantic sense. Call me a romantic, but I feel that the best kind of love is always going to be with the person most unexpected, at the most unexpected of times. And one shot, is all I need to figure that out, it really isn’t that hard.
I also have a part of me that truly believes that I could fall in love with anyone. We dream up fantasies of the perfect guy with the perfect hair and abs and smile — but reality isn’t so nice and dreamy that we can date these dreamboats from any corner of any place. That’s why for me, instead of me chasing butterflies and getting my hopes up, I’ll never know what kind of butterflies will come to me if I keep running around and getting winded.
And so you never know. Sometimes, you can have the privilege to see parts of people that no one else ever gets a chance to see and those, could be the exact pinpoints of how you could fall in love with anyone, should you choose to let that chance happen. It’s quite wonderful and remarkable who you can meet and get to know, only by saying a simple, “yes.”
Give it a shot. What do you have to lose?